The "kabetching" Theory

"walang babaeng pinangarap maging kabit" -Sari (The Mistress)

Is there really no one who ever wanted to be a mistress? I will be risking my pristine goody-two-shoes image with what I will admit : Back in 2003, me and some of my airport friends, agreed  that being a mistress is far better than being a wife. We had plenty of reasons to believe so, and we called it our "kabetching" theory. 

• The "kabetching" or mistress is well loved by the married guy.
• She is always showered with gifts and presents.
• She knows what is going on with the married guy and his wife but the wife is blissfully ignorant.
• When the husband had a fight with his wife,be it about him womanizing or not, he almost always tells the mistress about it, and she has the chance to comfort him and this will endear her to him more.

... And so on...

I did believe those things back then, but as time passed by, and along with it came more responsibilities and inevitably maturity, I somewhat forgot about it. I never really had the chance to prove that theory. And after watching The Mistress, I came to the harsh realization that our theory might be flawed. 

"Limang taon. Limang taon na kuntento lang ako sa kung anung meron kami ni Rico. Di ako nagreklamo, di ako naghanap. Tapos dumating ka, nagsimula akong magtanong." - Sari 

The mistress will have to be contented with what the married guy can offer her in terms of time. Christmas, valentine's day and other events are always celebrated with the real family. They can't be seen together in public so they can only go to places no one will find. She can not ask questions about his family, she can only wait for him to volunteer the information.

"mahal ko sya" -Sari 

When she is not in it for the money, but because she has fallen, truly,deeply,madly,genuinely,head-over-heels,crazy... (you get the point) ... inlove with the married guy, the mistress is bound to get hurt big time. Because no matter how much she loves the married guy :

"as long as I am alive, you will never be promoted to wife" - Regina

 So I guess at this point it is safe to say that our kabetching theory might not be all that fancy after all. I hope that in a perfect world, there will be no mistresses. Because nobody, not the wife, nor the mistress deserves to be hurt. Because everybody, deserves to be happy and nobody deserves to feel unloved,unwanted and unneeded.

They used this song as background music, the orchestra version... It is a song from 2006 (?) and I only liked it now because of the movie.

Busy week ahead

My last two posts were published using my playbook. Truth is I really have a few stuff in mind that I want to blog about, I find it hard to do so using my playbook,editing is difficult. A post that would normally take me 40 minutes to finish takes a few more minutes because my fingers tend to fall on the wrong buttons very often. I'd rather use the desktop, but with 4 teenage nephews, and a mom who is constantly trying to beat my bejewelled blitz score, our lone pc's activity can be compared to one that is in a computer rental shop. 

I have had a very lazy start for this week. My workweek starts on a Sunday, I filed for 3 days leave, so I reported for work for just 2 days. And now it is my off again. Did a lot of eating out during that 5-day long (days off included) staycation, after all, it was my birthday weekend. I was reunited to the 3-pounds I lost the previous week in preparation for a photo session with my cousin Ken.

But I have a very busy week ahead. Much of my time will be spent blahblahblah-ing in a training room for a 3-day long system training for 5 of my staff. I hope I can still find time to blog about these: 

¤ A movie review of this:

...saw it with my mom and we both cried our eyeballs out. I was supposed to have my ID pictures taken after the movie. But I had to postpone it as my eyes got swollen from all the crying.  Come to think of it, I have never done a movie review before, and I am not really very confident about doing 1. Maybe I will just write about my favorite lines from the movie.

¤ my birthday treat for my nephews

my pearly whites ... ready to get very oily! Spent an evening with my sister, my big nephews and Ken... and this photo was taken by Aye. With appetite as big as ours, Zark's was the place to be. Maybe for this post, I will be posting mostly photos.

¤ weekly secrets. I love PostSecret .period. A Sunday will not be complete without me looking at other people's secrets. I used to post my weekly favorite. I am planning to revive that. Hope I can.

¤ my travel plans.  I have been invited to go to Singapore. I hope it pushes through. I am excited. Maybe not much about the place but to see my former colleagues and and to spend quality time with my loved ones... away from work and schedules and deadlines. And a bora trip is also being brewed. 1 word , 4 letters and it is something i really want to do now ... D - I - E - T. I want to look good in pictures!

aaaah so much to talk about so little time. Last, I saw this one while surfing and immediately went aaaaaaaw. Linda, whoever you are, you are one lucky girl. So I guess guys really have a hard time saying the word sorry... ego maybe, but this makes up for what this guy can not verbalize. *sigh* inggit much!

click on the photo to view the whole story... 

Tweet-to sotto

My 3 latest tweets are about Senator Vicente "Tito" Sotto III. I find his act of plagiarizing a blog and tagalazing a speech very disturbing. They say hate the deed, not the dude... But how tito-sen defends his misdeeds is more bothersome than the deed itself. Don't get me wrong, I do not have a deep-seated hatred against this actor-turned politician. As a child, I even had dreams of meeting him and exchanging banter with him in the question and answer portion of little miss Philippines in the noontime variety show that he used to actively host. But I was never really an uber cute child, so I never really thought I'd pass the audition. I guess at a very early age, I have already manisfested my fear of rejection.

I am guilty of cyber bullying him... does he deserve it? maybe. Because I am not huge fan of plagiarism. I know that this blog of mine is not something that the Mr. Sotto would copy.  I know I may not live to see a 6-digit figure on my blog view counter because I am aware that not too many are interested with my random ramblings. But at least I can say that the things I write are all my ideas: wrong grammar, incoherent thoughts and spelling errors included. I do follow some very nicely written blogs and I do sometimes get my inspiration on what to write about from these "plagiarisable" blogs. But I always always state the source... and link them too... because those little counters that tell how many took time to read his posts is a treat to a blogger.

I am pretty sure Mr. Sotto will not be happy if someone else will claim to have thought of the teamup word game "Pinoy Henyo". So please Mr. Senator... don't just copy-paste, at least have the decency to paraphrase. and please give credit to where credit is due... cite your sources.

From Russia With Love

I am a very very lazy blogger, I just realized that since I started this blog almost 2 years ago, only 2089 people took time to read my random ramblings... And I think half of these views were done by yours truly... Ok that may be a bit exaggerated... Maybe just a quarter of it. I wonder how accurate the stats are though, a glimpse at my most recent one:

My Top 5

PHILIPPINES - 917 views

I am not surprised. After all much of what I blog about, foodtrips, places I've been to, and other activities happened in the archipelago. Not to mention most of my friends are in Manila. So I guess the Philippines being at number 1 is justifiable. 

UNITED STATES - 441 views

I doubt if the Joe's and Jane's reads my blog. I am pretty sure my friends and relatives who have flown to the land of milk and honey are the ones who takes time to check what I have been doing.

GERMANY - 68 views

I honestly expected a middle eastern country; say UAE or an asian territory to occupy spot number 3. I have quite a good number of friends in Dubai,Qatar and Singapore. I called Macau my home for 14 months and even if I have yet to revisit that place, I managed to keep in touch with my Cantonese friends as well as my Filipino friends who work there. Germany, I probably know a maximum of 5 people there. 5 very busy people who I doubt has time to blog hop.

UKRAINE - 66 views and RUSSIA - 58 views

At number 4 and number 5 are Ukraine and Russia respectively. I definitely do not know anybody from Ukraine and Russia. I wonder what part of my blog interests the Ukrainians and Russians. Weird but interesting.

Well it doesn't really matter who reads my posts. I just want to write.
Busy busy week ahead. Time to hit the sack.